When I started this blog, it was to create a record of the range of emotions that we all go through as we muddle our way through this time apart. I did it for us first and foremost, but also hope that maybe it can help someone else who may be going through the same things. I think all that we have gone through so far is normal, based on the wonderful feedback I have received. And I hope that it continues.
That is quite a disclaimer for my rant that is coming. Yes, I miss the Husband. Yes, the girls miss Daddy. And life is most definitely different. Yet in some ways it is exactly the same.
This morning the Husband called to question my credit card statement. As you kidding me? You are thousands of miles away and you called to question why I bought two more Good Nite Lites? (one for the Little One and one for Grandma and Grandpa’s house, if you too must know) You want to know what I bought at Target or WalMart? You wonder what I was doing at the Disney Outlet store? You really want to go line-by-line to see what I spent money on during the last month?
I am in charge of the finances while he is gone. I am well aware of the balance on the credit card. I am well aware that yes, this month I have spent a little more than usual. But I am also aware that some of those extras were for him. Some of those extras were for the girls and some of those things were just for fun. And some of those were stock-ups from Sam’s – -diapers, toilet paper, paper towels, fun stuff like that.
If he would have looked at the dates on the statement, several of those charges were actually before he left. I did some Christmas shopping for the girls before he left. I told him this. I know he doesn’t remember that I told him that’s what I had done.
I know he is tired. I know that he misses us. I know he is frustrated with his situation. But seriously to spend his call today harping on me for the credit card bill?
I am annoyed at him for harassing me. I am annoyed at myself for spending the extra money. I am annoyed at the credit card company for not processing the payment three days ago so that I could move the statement out of his inbox before he saw it!
September 22, 2009 at 4:22 pm
I can imagine this would be very frustrating. It is one of the reasons Dave and I have seperate accounts because otherwise I’d be answering those questions all the time.
once I spent $50 at an antique mall on several items. He came home, looked around and said “Did we recently come into money?” are you kidding me???
anyway, I understand. and I think it would be worse to spend what little time you have to talk on that!